My husband of 3 years was caught cheating. I filed for divorce a month later after getting nowhere towards understanding, reconciliation, etc. He shut down and I was fed up. We both are very spiritual. I pray and pray and pray but not about fixing my marriage but about strength and perseverance and a fresh start.
In my heart I don’t want to reconcile. But we’ve hit a stand still. My husband is missing. I’ve not heard from him in weeks. He missed our first hearing. His mail is coming back as returned. We have another hearing next month. I pray but nothing seems to happen.
From a spiritual stand point what am I missing? I know God doesn’t want for 2 people to divorce however I have good reason: adultery. Am I praying about th wrong things? Does God want me to pray for reconciliation? I just feel like God provided me with a way out of a bad situation so why the stall????
Answers & Comments
You have hardened your heart, but you are double minded. Your vows were to each other and to God... they are the ones who you should be having this discussion. Do your part of doing what is right, not what you feel is right. Reconciliation or not is dependent on the love you have for them.... and their love for you. Forgive if the need be... but that doesn't mean you become a doormat or use the circumstance to be hurtful right now or later on in the future. You both may need some counseling to get through this. Talk with your priest or pastor as they often refer couples to people who can be helpful in this.
It is a satanic protestant lie that adultery is grounds for divorce. Get a better Bible translation.
"so why the stall" - Really. Your upset because it's taking to long. Oh God, why does this not happen RIGHT NOW. Your upset with God because it hasn't happen right at this instant.
The path to happiness is about expectation. If you were expecting to be taken, beaten and tortured, but instead they took you out to dinner, then you'd be very happy. But if you were expecting a big fancy dinner, and you ended up at the same crappy restaurant you'd be disappointed.
Your expecting the divorce to go through and to live your life happily ever after. But life doesn't work that way. So you've set yourself up for disappointment by expecting too much.
Expect that things are going wrong.
You are right to divorce him.
He made a vow before God to be faithful to you.. to love you and cherish you no matter what.... and he betrayed your trust... and broke the vow he made to God.
There will be ripple effects. I will pray that you heal and that God gives you comfort and strength to move on.
god isn't real....divorce law provides you a clean break from a bad situation...