Hello everybody,
I'm a junior in high school, and I'm doing really well (#1 in my class). Recently, my parents told me to think about going to a good IV league school like Harvard or Princeton etc. I know that if I really wanted to and tried, that I could, with all of my volunteer hours. But its that I really don't want to go, but rather go somewhere closer to home, like UCLA, which is a very good school. They don't approve of that. But instead, keep insisting and forcing Harvard upon me and emotionally abusing me with blackmail, and saying that I'll be a failure in life if I don't listen to them. They blackmail me, taking away things that make me happy. I seriously cannot take this emotional abuse. Tonight I cried, for the first time in years, when they told me that they have given up on me. And then, for the first time in the 16 years I have been alive, suicidal thoughts came to my mind.
The only reason I'm not dead right now is because of my friends, and my loving girlfriend.
I really do not know what to do. I am very miserable at home. But at school, I am loved.
Please, please, yahoo users, tell me what to do before I do something wrong.
Any advice is greatly appreciated and accepted.
Thank you in advance
~Ritwik
Update:Thank you all sooo much!
You guys are great, I'm gonna talk to them right now.
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Dude,
You will be an adult when you decide what college to go to. You may have to pay for it yourself, but they have grants, and loans for that. If you want to go to UCLA, you will find a way.
And i'm sure your parents love you, but probably just believe that your future would be much better if you went to a school like Harvard. And there are some things that are much easier when you have that on your resume. But your happiness may not be tied to those things. They are just worried that you are wasting potential.
Parents suck when you are growing up. Then you get out of the house and start your own life. And that distance, age and experience make it much easier to deal with.
My parents who i hated so much i moved out and didn't speak to them for 6 months, are my best friends now. I know they did the best they could and they know i did the best i could.
In short apply everywhere and see where you are accepted, then make decisions. And worst case, you go to Harvard, meet all the future CEOs of fortune 500 companies, and walk out with a degree that will get you an awesome job.
the first thing you did right was ask. ;)
But, that's not right what your parents are doing, they can't make you do anything, maybe they can but if you don't want to go to Harvard or Princeton they should be fine with that.. If they went to Harvard or similar then they should be able to recommend you go there due to their past experience but without them knowing what it's like to be there they should just be happy when you go to college or university even IF it's a cheap college and not the best.
Try talking to them and tell them what they're doing to you and if all else fails tell them you had suicidal thoughts because of them (as a last resort)..
hopefully they will see what they have done and hopefully everything goes back to normal.
Whatever the choice, please don't commit suicide, you have no reason to even if your parents are hating you. They are parents, they can't be perfect and make mistakes. This could have been a major screw up on their part.
Hello there, well I think you should just be tough about it. Be happy at school. Enjoy the good times. So you try for Harvard and all those other schools, you can still apply to the schools you want. If you get accepted to UCLA just go there. By that time youll be an adult and can make your own decisions. Also be straight up with your parents tell them no. That you do not want to go there and that you are making your own life.
Well tell your parents that it is your life and you have a right to decide which school you want to go to. You can also try explaning to them that it doesn't really matter what ollege you go to because you will be majoring in the same thing so there is no point in going so far away from home. You can also try getting some teachers to talk to your parents about how the college you're choosing is also good. Besides you'll be going to college soon so you can live on campus instead of home. Hope they see it your way and if they don't you always have a choice to just live on campus.
Have a talk with your parents. Tell them that it is your life, and that you have learned what's best for you is UCLA. Tell them you will not do well in Harvard if it is not a school that you want to go to. If that doesn't work, then talk to your guidance counselor. Tell him/her everything you just told us. I'm 100% sure you will do fine if you just talk to him/her.
Good Luck! : )
Why dont you try getting some friends together to speak with your parents. Let them know how you feel. This may be hard, but then they will know how thier actions are affecting you. But don't throw your life away for something as simple as choosing a school.
Speak to them and try to get them to understand, but if you dont speak up, then they will never know. Set some rules about who gets to talk and when. Make it a success.
only you can stop yourself.finish your jr. year, tell them you will do it. finish your senior year and move away. start finding a job keep all your money. after highschool run away. you'll be like 18 or whatever so it isn't really running awya. they can't choose for you. do not kill yourself over that. it would on ly end up hurting others more than yourself. live up your high school year. and show them you don't care what they think. act like you own your life. becausee you do. tell them you don't care what they say or what they think of you. only you can judge yourself! i wish you well.!!
dont do it