Talk-a-lot problem! Help?
Simply put, whenever I talk, I always blab out the first thing that comes to mind and I never stop and think before I speak even when I really know I shouldn't say something, and I tell myself not to say it, it's already out. I for some reason continuously talk without thinking And when I do think before I talk, the sentences are completely awkward . How can I exercise control over this and not be such a chatter box without being awkward?
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It really happens to the best of us. Practice listening, it will actually help you. Many times we don't realize it but we must practice something that were not used to doing and it is essentially part of learning and growing, try nodding in expression and focus on what they are saying and ask them questions, not all the time but show them you are empathetic in listening this shows maturity and understanding. Think about the message they are trying to give you. People really do value your feedback otherwise they would not be taking the time to confide in you with their things. If you must interrupt just briefly apologize for it if they have to pause and reiterate what they just told you that way you are not sending the signal that you are intruding on them while they are speaking. Try taking turns when speaking, do not get in the habit of just agreeing that would seem as if your really just tagging along and have no common sense and are just plain rude. Speaking over someone is never good. It does not allow us to transmit the information to ourselves and it just prevents us from learning. Remember the saying, loose lips sink ships, when in doubt, just zip it. Be patient work on building a reputation for listening to others not constantly interrupting them. This oftentimes makes them feel like not really socializing with you.
That is called nervous chatter and it can get you into trouble at times or make enemies. You need to work on being relaxed and take things in stride. Practice being the listener verses the one with the knowledge. Practice being calm and being a part of the group verses trying to lead it. Practice being polite and allowing everyone else to have all the say first and then you can respond to what they have said verses trying to know it all yourself first. Good luck.
Nervous chatter!
If you talk a lot, learn to just sit quietly at appropriate times. I learned this the hard way.. People don't especially love it when you (I) talk to them a lot. Humans are social creatures by nature. Just learn to sit and listen..