Well first of all I am a mom (using her daughter's account btw) and I have three teenage daughters aged 17 15, 13 and two boys aged 20 and one who is the twin of my fifteen year old girl. So anyway, I was at a family friend's party and one of the men there looked at my daughters and said
'Wow, THREE teen daughters? I don't know how you manage to cope. I would die!'
But when I turned around to answer him he was gone and other people came to greet me and there were many people so I lost him.
I know you might be thinking, well of course teen girls are hell but it really hurt my feelings that people automatically think that my girls are raging hell and my boys are easier when in reality they're are 10x worse than any of the girls from the moment the turned 10 (even my 20 yr old!). They are both extremely whiny (:( I hate saying this but it is true) and hate it when things don't go their way. My girls are not perfect, but none are anywhere near as whiny and are all relatively calm people that just go with the flow, you know?
Don't get me wrong, I love them so much - I don't love my daughters over my sons or something like that but what I'm trying to say is, are boys always easier to raise than girls? Why do people say this? I'd really love some answers!
p.s. I also get comments like, oh your daughters will hate you when they're teens. I used to fear and dread the teen years until i realised that now my daughters are teens they still love to cuddle and tell me they love me and don't feel teen angst alot - ok lol, now i'm just babbling away.
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All kids are hell. In the nicest way possible. Girls will put you through emotional hell. Boys will put you through "did you just kick a soccer ball through the window?" hell.
Unless people are making malicious comments, comments like that one are mostly a way of complimenting your mothering abilities.
alright im a teen girl and that man said that because teenage girls tend to be over dramatic. It was nothing against your girls, it was just that a stereotypical teenage girl is supposed to be whiny, dramatic, and boy crazy. Which, is not the case 90% of the time. But when people think of teenage girl they think of that most of the time and having 3 would be unbearable. When someone says that to you nxt time simply say, my girls are wonderful, or something like that. For you question about whether raising a boy or a girl is easier i think it really depends on the kids' personality and how the parent chooses to raise the child.
For the most part, people always judge according to past experiences, or sight collision to the matter. I'm pretty sure the man didn't mean any harm to the statement. Most people automatically assume females will be harder to raise then males, on account of puberty. Mood swings happen much more often in females, than males. I, myself am one. I'm 19, and I'm just now having actual conversations with my mother, because i thought "the world was against me". I'm the eldest of 8 children, and I understand where you're coming from, I agree with you with your sons, knowing the minds of the teenage male, they probably assume that your daughter's have all of your attention, so whining will make them catch your eye. To calm your sons, maybe have some time to you and them.
-Brittany
PS. Sorry, if I wasn't precise. This is the first time I've ever answered a question, but I hope I helped.
Why does it matter what some people say? They don't know you and they are obviously going off stereotypes.
Girls are hard in different ways, that is a fact. boys are hard in another way, but not always the same. for their gender.
personally the thing that scares me the most about girls being teenagers is the emotionao things they go through. The dangers that they face and ...media.
it is great that you enjoy your girls. So next time you hear a comment I would reply, you havent raised girls, have you? you have no idea what you are missing out on, I feel bad for YOU." and walk away.
i am a teen girl.... and i love my mom no matter what! after all she has done for me i am very thankful to her. and it is not true that guys are easier raise...people are just creating a stereotype... boys and girls are equal.... maybe those people don't know what it really feels like to raise all those kids. if they had the experience i am sure they will know what it feels like... you are a great mum.... don't let your feelings hurt soo easily just because of some misunderstanding of other people....
That's the exact same way my mom thinks of me! She always says that she's glad that she had a girl xP I'm glad there's at least two people that don't think of teenage girls as a living hell D:
Wel im a 15 year old girl and i dont think that much troble and besides peolpe use to say girls are easier to raise but now they say boys are just dont pay them any attentien their all sexist idioTS!!!
i think what they mean is boys(generally) are easier because they dont have the worry as much of teenage pregnancy in there mind.. to raise it! second, they mean boys uses to be less worried about looking "good". there simple.. girls bras, periods, pregnancy make up . your more worried about her dating 100X more because they arent that smart about what boys really want at that age...boys arent easier they more bumps and bruises.. or inerrested in videogames they really dont care so much about looks... unless its a girl the bait!
guys will say things like that because they are more worried about something happening to the girls more than guys like girls can get raped easier and girls can turn into sluts stuff like that and thats just how guys think idk i wouldnt worry about it
Let's see......Why would some one say living with three teen girls would be hell?.......
Periods.....
Mood swings.......
Hormones.........
Make up.........
Shithead boys sniffing around.....
And finally, Possible Pregnancy.
Just thinking out loud.