Ok well I am a sophomore in high school and he (lets call him Andrew) is a senior:
Ok well i walk the same way to my algebra II class every day and since i have been walking this way for about 5 months now i seem to see the same people whilst walking over and over again..ANDREW is one of them. I've never actually met andrew, but the moment i saw him i had a huge crush on him...Mostly because he really reminds me of the mental image i created for myself of the main character of one of my fav. books...but anyways, i see this guy everyday and we always look at each other and he sometimes smiles at me...only prob. is that looking at each other & smiling is all that has been happening!!
i fantasize about him all the time and i feel like i can't breathe when i am around him. I WANT to get to know him, but i have no idea how!
PLEASE times 10 help me with this!!! i'm reaaaaally attracted to this guy & i know he is not an asshole or anything, so i'm good there
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First off, stop relating him to your book-guy and stop fantasizing. I know fantasizing is definitely one of the more fun parts of having a crush, but you end up creating a different persona of him. I mean, you take bits and pieces of your fantasies and books and create him, and trust me, there will be parts of him that you didn't expect, and you'll be angry about it for some reason. I've been there... many... times.. -feels like a loser and a hypocrite-
Second, just stop him in the hallway and ask him a question, like, "Who's the senior class' president? I needed to talk to him." or just 'bump' into him. Or just actually say "Hi." Trust me, you will get no where smiling. The truth is, you know nothing about him from his mouth. He's told you nothing and you're only going off of other people's words and his facebook page or something, probably. So talk to him to make sure you like him for more than looks and who you want or expect him to be.
First of all, you're not a loser. Ok, secondly you've got it pretty simple. If I were you, I'd simply chat with him. Just strike up a friendly conversation with him. Getting the courage to do so and finding the time for it is the tough part. After you've gotten to know eachother move from there. If it makes you feel any better, I'm also a sophmore in highschool with a similar situation. Unforunately, you might have to settle for being just friends. I've had to do that before so it might happen to you. I'm not saying it will, it could though. Might the main character you imagined be Edward Cullen from Twilight? Anyway, good luck, I hope everything works out great for you two!
I remember that feeling... Man, the last time I felt that way about a guy! Now I'm just a cynical old bag... *Ahem* So, what I did back then was write a poem. Yeah, it sounds corny but it worked. Turns out the guy was really into me and couldn't even believe that someone like me would ever have a crush on him. It didn't last. Turned out that I didn't like him so much after I nabbed him. I played out this scenario about 5 times after that and same thing. Guys can seem so great from a distance and sometimes it's just good to leave them there. But you what? It's better to regret something you've done than something you wish you did!
Well I am a junior in high school so i totally get where your coming from. Talking to senior guys can definently be intimidating but just have some confidence and speak up whenever he is around. A casual "hey" or "how are you" never hurt anyone. Just act chill and don't try to hard. No one likes a clingy underclassman. Being mysterious is the last thing anyone would expect from someone yourger so just don't chase him and If he likes you back he will make a move.
Just give him sign first, like smile a little at him in the hallway or class, wherever,lightly brush his shoulder when walking by him,make eye contact a lot etc. then ask him if he likes you.if he does,I hope this helps ask him for his number so you can call him just to get know as a friend!
Accidently on purpose jump into him and say something funny/stupid. Hes a guy and probably thinks you're hot but maybe he is shy so hes looking for an excuse to talk to you. So bump into him.
Or downright go up and say hello im such and such.
Go on, you know it il work.
SOMEONE has to make that move.
5 months? hes as shy as you are lol
Cmon woman haha
you'il do fine
Good luck
Just go for it girl- be spontanious... tell him hi one day and if he has a positive reaction, a few days later slip him a paper with a brief message, your name n numb on it. Be confident.. The worst that could happen, he shows no interest n oh well, many more fish in da sea to choose from.. Good luck!
Just go and talk 2 him. Talk about casual stuff and move along from there. If he likes u too u will eventually notice. It will all go well. Good luck.
talk to him thats the only way ur ever gonna find out for sure... if like him soo much make the first move. but dont be a sluty whore either. talk to him if hes into u he'll let u knw.
i would get to know him first before getting a crush! talk to him and be like hey or sumthing IDK
i know looks are really appealing but u cant go crazy like this b4 becoming friends