Im a guy. 18 yrs old. Athletic. Decent looking. (not super model good looks but not ugly either) and I HATE going out in public when I'm by myself. I start college tomorrow. And I don't have any classes with any friends and it's just stressing me out cuz I know how uncoomfortable I get in situations like this. I know a lot of people deal with this but I think my situation is alittle different. Because when I'm with my friends. Even if it's just one other friend. I am extremely outgoing. But if I'm not with friends, I get so uncomfortable that I can't even really explain it.. And if I just try to go up to people I don't know and be like "hey how's it going" then i feel like they'll think I'm stupid or a creep or something. Any thoughts or advice?
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So your shy? Not many people care about others since there in college and preparing for they future it's not like high school but you can meet some pretty cool people if you just say hi and take a seat. Talk up with that one person and then keep it going. Before you know it you will notice a lot of the older people keep to there selfs.
Lol. Its college. I'm going into my second year. Its easy to make friends. And for not having classes with your friends, its not like high school. You can hang out with your friends once you leave class unless you're staying off campus but yeah. Try not to feel like a failure when you didn't even try in the first place. And if you live in the dorms, you can make friends with your room mates. Sooo... try not to fret and be yourself. You're making yourself paranoid for no reason.
Everyone is braver when they have their friends at their side. But you'll get more comfortable the more in those situations. It's not easy at first, but it does get better. If it's REALLY bad, talk to a counselor...you could have Agoraphobia. And...I promise, people won't think you're creepy if you try to introduce yourself. :)