OK, my opinion you can love someone and hurt them, not because you choose to but because you are human ergo prone to make mistakes against better judgement, or sometimes people just don't know how to love for whatever reason (abused childhood, or victimized etc.). Love is perfect but WE as people are not, therefore we will hurt the ones we truly love, but it's how we try to fix it is what builds on that love.
Next opionion, For a person to truly love you they will not betray you or hurt you and are trustworthy. However if they don't respect you enough to be true to you than they really never loved you. The simple reason is with out trust there can be no love. Here is the way it works. Trust builds respect, respect builds love. Tare down trust you lose respect, you lose respect love dies. Love brings out the best in all of us.
So tell me Yahoo Answers forum, which do you agree with mine or the "other". Thanks.
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I agree with you 100%. We are imperfect beings and even when we truly love someone with all of our heart, we can still make a choice, a decision which results in that person getting hurt. It is how we handle their hurt, what we do about it that makes the difference.
People are people; we all make mistakes. You are right in saying that love is perfect, but we are not. However, if a love is true, both lovers (not only as in bf/gf but friends and family too) will hold a higher standard of trust, honesty, and respect. That means that even though we all make mistakes and will sometimes stumble, we must realize what we have done. We also must realize that love is the most forgiving power in the world, because God is love, and God is perfect. This is hard to understand because how can God be a feeling? But what it really means is that love is derived from a divine source; love was made from perfection i.e. God. Sooooooo.......
Both opinions are right, however the main point is:
Love is perfect, we are not. Love covers betrayals and lies if the love is true and the betrayer is honestly sorry, regrets his/her mistake(s), and truly strives to fix the problem. Therefore...
We must try, with struggle at times, to understand those we deal with, to love those we deal with, and to forgive those we deal with. Hope that helps!
I don't agree 100% with either of them, but I'm leaning towards the first one. Some people hurt each other in different degrees, and people do make mistakes. What makes the difference from those BIG mistakes, is that they don't do it again. Love -in my opinion- is not perfect. Some only love themselves, others love wholly, even though their backgrounds are not perfect. People have to learn to heal themselves from the past, so they can correct the future.
Wow thats deep, but i agree on a few things, To truly love someone you must dedicate 100% of your love, time, and honesty. Yes we are just human but, we also know what were doing before we do it. theres no surprises in the actions you take only in the consequences of those actions. But contiunally messing up and thinking its ok to hurt the ones you love just because you can use the "im human i make mistakes" excuse will eventually bite you in the butt. Just remember :-) Hope i kinda helped.
no excuse for hurting the one you claim to love. If you love,you just do not do it and that is that. If your are still selfish or unfeeling or disrespectful enough to think it is ever OK then you should remain alone because you are not ready to be part of an honest love relationship.
You got it right. I used to agre with "the other way" but through my (imperfect) life found out that love is love but it does hurt at times if it is real.
You are 100% right.Yes.