Ok so I'm over 20 and quite frankly haven't been with anyone. The problem is I always get judged on how I look plus I have been rejected a lot just because the way I look. Like I had a crush on this one girl and I was very nice to her and treated her with respect she found out that I liked her and she gave me a rejection hot line number and I felt bad about it she also told her friends the reason why she wasn't interested in me is because I was hideous. So I had to move on like I do think I'm a handsome person but a lot of females don't seem to agree with it like they never even tried to see what a sweet person I am they also happen to prefer the bad boys which is crazy. This other girl Maichi want to antagonize me just because I never had a girlfriend she was saying I doubt you are confident you weren't born with people skills bad boys have the ability to steal a guys girlfriend. I got mad when she said that but didn't show so I had to walk away my other friend told me that I need to change myself and get rid of my acne if I want to get a date. So can someone please give me some advice?
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Sweetie. I know where you are coming from. Been there...oy, have I been there!! All my guy friends would be " She's such a great girl, why can't some guy see past the outside?" I'm not ugly, per say, but I'm a 'big girl' and in today's society, that is practically Unforgivable and in the U.S. " fat" and "ugly" seem to go hand-in-hand. People don't want to see past the outside and see the beauty within a person.
I can't promise it will get any easier, but hang in there. And any girl that would do something so cruel and rude to you, is definitely someone you wouldn't want any kind of a relationship with ANYWAY! Whatta snot-head! You deserve better. Everyone deserves better than that.
I am confident that somewhere, sometime, you WILL find someone who isn't so shallow that you could walk thru her and not get your feet wet. There are women out there who are smart enough to see the inner person of the heart.
If you want to talk more about it, you could email me at [email protected] and I'll give you more of a pep talk when you need it. Keep your chin up.
Certain.. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but you have got to additionally fully grasp that one-of-a-kind individuals have distinct tolerances centered on appearance. Sure some men and women are just concited. But when you're real in love with someone the query s/b irrelavent, for probably the most section.
well you aint so ugly id give ya a rejection hotline number but then again i dont think id do that for anyone. but you arent ugly, like you dont look like someone youd be particulary ashamed to be seen with, sounds like this girl was just embarrassed or like wanted to be a bz88ch or look cool
just be yourself, still be yourself but be cool, act like stuff dosent bother you, but dont change who you are. or try to be a bad guy.
you just got some bad luk cause you arent ugly
being super confident and having good people skills isn't a requirement for getting a girlfriend. you can prob find someone who has those things but isnt a btch about it like that one girl
You shouldn't have to change anything about yourself for someone. You're good looking, just be confident. Don't listen to anyone else says about you. Love takes time.. just be patient. The right girl will come along & love you for who you are
Do things that make you happy, that make you feel good, and the confidence will come from that. You will be more positive, and in a better frame of mind. People are attracted to those things. You will be fine :)