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I don't think it will be a problem for now but since he won't be that crazy about his hair. Once he can carry on a conversation then he should be aloud to control his hair and his dad probably won't try to cut it. If he starts getting physical then you can get the courts involved.

Reverse psychology! Next time tell your ex you love your sons hair and he did a great job of cutting it! Then tell him you didn't really know he could cut hair. Any thing he thinks you like he'll do the opposite. And your right, this will go on for ever. I have an ex as well. Until our kids got older he did everything and anything he could to make me miserable. Even now that our kids are grown and have their own families his still tries stuff. Like he told one of our girls just a few months ago that when we got divorce { Which has been 24 years ago now !} that I didn't want them. **As if he did and I wouldn't let him have them! ** What ever. I told my kids if that was so true then why didn't he make an effort to get custody. And why was it that he never tried to even see them....ever. They know that their dad was in the military and was stationed as far away as he could get. He would come home and not even call to make any arrangements to visit them. He wouldn't even tell me he was even coming. I would find out by someone that saw him in town. Usually it was his borther-in-law that would call me to tell me he was here. His borther-in-law would get mad cause my ex didn't want to see the kids. That way if he didn't want to see our kids he didn't have to explain to them why. Our kids remember all that. Kids are smart but the best thing to do is let them decide for them self as they grow older. They'll figure it out one day just on what they remember who did what for them and who was always there for them. Sooner then you may expect them too.

well anything that has kids that have seperated pearents is a hard 1. i dont no if you have talked to the father about it but thats where it needs to start. if so then the next step is to go talk to a pearent aid and find out if this is a matter for courts or not. its not fear wen 1 pearent uses the kid to get back at the other 1.

Perhaps you like it long and the ex likes it short. The two of you need to come to an agreement on a good length or maybe one year have it long and the next short, idk. But, really either way, it's nothing to cry about. This is what happens when people have kids and the relationship fails, the parents fight over the dumbest things. Good luck.

Have you talked to him about this?

My son is also curly haired, but because his hair had to be a little long to see them people kept asking how ould our daughter was and awww she's so cute! So we gave him a hair cut... This may be the reasoning bhind the hair cuts- i would ask him

It bothers you but try to ignore it ... once the ex sees it does not bother you anymore, I bet he stops cutting it.

The ex is creating a new life for himself. He is allowed privacy to a certain extent. You only need to know things that directly involve your child.

Sounds like it is time you moved on too ... once you find some one, you both can move past the "smaller" things that irritate...and maybe in the future be able to coparent.

you are his mother. you are the reason he has life. you dont have to be ran over like that. make a scene and blow up (not when the kid is there though) and then dare him to touch the kids hair. you love your kid and you have wants and needs for him too, you are just being a parent.