In most states by the time your 16 you can have some say about your living arrangements. Call children services and ask them. They will know the laws and what you would have to do to not have to stay at your Mom's so much.

Make sure that it is clear to everyone that this is your desire, and you are not being influenced by your Dad.

Also, keep communicating with your Mom even if you don't go stay every weekend. At least visit her on the weekends you would be going, and talk to her often between visits.

One of my daughters and I argued a lot when she was 16, but we're very close now.

Find out what the laws for your state are, that could probably be done by calling children's services or a family law attorney. Then talk to your Mom. If she is aware that you can have say as to where you live, she may be willing to change the living arrangements without fighting it out in court. If she will not, talk to your Dad about going to court to change the agreement.

One of your parents has to be willing to spend the time and money to go back to court to change the arrangements if it has to be done legally. Have you talked to them both about changing the living arrangements for a while to see how it goes?

As the custodial mom, I fought against my kids living full time with dad because his life style and parenting skills are not the best for our kids. My now 18 year old daughter wanted to live with him when she was 14 and is in agreement that it would have been a huge mistake if I had agreed. But that is our situation and I don't know the reasons why you and your mom argue. So talk to them and see what you can work out.

Your parents would have to spend alot of money to get this order changed. Did you tell mom you want to come over less yet? Did she not agree? Its her right to see you until the court says otherwise. Id try to keep talking to mom about it. It sounds like the half and half has also to do with the child support also, which really is no ones business but their own. Id talk to mom and see what she says, if shes ok with it, ask dad if he is. You cant assume dad wants to alter the plan, putting him on the spot might or might not be a good idea. Moms tend to have more rules, be more emotional, and honestly, you should just go with the program here.

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it depends on how old you are and what state you are in. some states will let the kid pick thier living arrangements once they are a certain age.