I have been living and sharing expenses with the same person for over three years and have discovered banking activity for just her. I first asked if what she used the account for and she told me she was saving money for a mutual purpose. I asked about the balance and she said she was putting extra money into a loan payment which made automatic deductions ; a savvy savings plan; but not the part that angers me. I searched around and found receipts. A deposit over $3000 was made and at present it is about $400. The deposit was from her selling stock shares. She told me that she got $1000 for the transaction. Then as we discussed it further, a rental property income was deposited into that same account for $1000. Now in my mind that is $4100 that is now unaccounted for.

I had been working overtimethis past summer and all I earned is not in the savings, as we had planned.

I feel hurt, ignorant and resentful for the mismanaging of our money and her lack of honesty. Is this a forgivable?