Hello everyone in advance let me thank you for reading through my question :]Also please don't tell me nothing is ever safe and not to have sex I know that already :lSo on with the question. I am scared to death of getting my girlfriend pregnant we've been dating nearly 2 years and I've only been able to get over my fear and have sex about 5 times. 5 months ago when we did it last the condom fell off and we said "eh you're on the pill and you just got off your period, its fine" that almost gave me a panic attack all month. Anyways we both want to do it again she's on the pill and takes it perfectly within an hour of 11pm every single day, she never misses. Also I will never ever not use a condom again. Vasectomy is obviously not an option, I don't know what I want out of life yet. So I'm considering these spermicidal condoms just to help ease my mind as much as possible as well as having sex like the last day before her period so I don't have to be scared all month as well as not even allowing myself to finish, or finishing outside. My question would be what is it like to have an allergic reaction to these condoms? would she have to go to the hospital? Should I just like put one over my fingers and use that on her first then wait a couple days to see if she reacts? Also any input from anyone on how you got over anxiety about getting pregnant or getting your partner pregnant would be so helpful :] (anti pregnancy statistics are great :]). Lastly I figure other nervous people like me may read this article. If you post something negative, unhelpful, or anything that makes me nervous about sex ill remove it. So please don't waste your time.Thanks again:]Update:Also no she is not allergic to latex nor am I. I just wanna be prepared incase one of us were to have a reaction to the spermicide. another question are spermicidal condoms actually any better?. Created by ?. health-en - diseases-conditions-en - allergies-en

Spermicidal condoms allergic reaction?

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Spermicidal condoms allergic reaction?

Hello everyone in advance let me thank you for reading through my question :]

Also please don't tell me nothing is ever safe and not to have sex I know that already :l

So on with the question. I am scared to death of getting my girlfriend pregnant we've been dating nearly 2 years and I've only been able to get over my fear and have sex about 5 times. 5 months ago when we did it last the condom fell off and we said "eh you're on the pill and you just got off your period, its fine" that almost gave me a panic attack all month. Anyways we both want to do it again she's on the pill and takes it perfectly within an hour of 11pm every single day, she never misses. Also I will never ever not use a condom again. Vasectomy is obviously not an option, I don't know what I want out of life yet. So I'm considering these spermicidal condoms just to help ease my mind as much as possible as well as having sex like the last day before her period so I don't have to be scared all month as well as not even allowing myself to finish, or finishing outside. My question would be what is it like to have an allergic reaction to these condoms? would she have to go to the hospital? Should I just like put one over my fingers and use that on her first then wait a couple days to see if she reacts? Also any input from anyone on how you got over anxiety about getting pregnant or getting your partner pregnant would be so helpful :] (anti pregnancy statistics are great :]). Lastly I figure other nervous people like me may read this article. If you post something negative, unhelpful, or anything that makes me nervous about sex ill remove it. So please don't waste your time.

Thanks again:]

Update:

Also no she is not allergic to latex nor am I. I just wanna be prepared incase one of us were to have a reaction to the spermicide. another question are spermicidal condoms actually any better?

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First of all, I failed to understand one of the issues at hand. You say that you're never wearing a condom again, but then assert that you want to try using spermicidal condoms. What's the difference?

You did state this, but it is definitely great that your girlfriend is using birth control regularly. Birth control works very well and rarely results in pregnancy after intercourse. Research particular brands and see a doctor, if you and her are both highly concerned with the pregnancy rate while she is using her current contraceptive.

There are three solutions here...

First, wearing a condom is a very safe route to go. Is your girlfriend allergic to latex? If she is allergic, fall back on the birth control, like I said earlier - make sure she is using a highly appraised (as in "really good") birth control. If she isn't allergic, use a water-based, spermicidal lubrication. Other lubricants tear the latex condom; water-based is a must for ultra protection.

Second, have you considered other types of sex? Do you all engage in oral or anal sex? There are plenty of alternatives to vaginal intercourse, and alternatives can be just as intimate as vaginal sex.

Third, this scenario involves her actually becoming pregnant. If she becomes pregnant, you have options - aborting the child, giving the child up for adoption, and of course, keeping the child.

Final thought - Wear a condom and use water-based, spermicidal lubricant; make sure she is taking her birth control regularly; understand the risks of pregnancy.

~ August ~

Anonymous

First--I feel you really need to seek some help from a therapist for this issue which you have with intimacy with your girlfriend. She is taking the pill--using condoms are good--I would just use the regular type--latex free----forget the spermicide stuff...use some K-Y Jelly and you will be right.

If you buy the correct size condom--and you put it one the proper way--it should not fall off.

Stop your worry and enjoy yourself, stop worrying about all this other rubbish or you will find out this women has found some one else to lay in bed with.