My live-in boyfriend can be lazy at times. He can have zero dollars in the bank and not even apply for a job with the "we still have groceries from when I bought them and I put in for my prepaid rent" attitude. He is in college full time but is out of student loans and I told him that he needs to get a job as I don't want to cover his expenses. I had him move out and we now date from our different homes because of issues. Since he moved out I have given him my cigarettes lately as he has no money for his own and paid one of his unexpected bills. But in other areas too, the data on his phone was cut off and he won't call to see what is going on... he sent an email but no response so he doesn't use his phone for internet. He doesn't plan or manage his life and complains when things don't work out. Even with our dating, I have to pick him up as he can't afford a cab and doesn't drive. I find that being around him, that I am less motivated and on top of things, like I was before him. I am not depressed, I just feel like things are slipping out of my hands whereas before him I never even forget even an appointment. Even my hobbies are things that don't interest me as much as I don't feel motivated for things. I feel happy though, not down. Just unmotivated and more forgetful. Is this a problem with me? .... or can a lazy partner make you feel less on top of things and drag you backwards away from where you want to be? I don't know if this is natural or if it's all my own personal issues that I can't stay on top of my responsibility since we have been together, which has been ten months.
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Because of the issues with your boyfriend, its starting to affect you ... your best bet is to really refocus on yourself and get yourself back to where you know you should be.I know that it won't be easy, but if you have to break up with him to regain yourself ,so be it. You need to find a partner that will give you a more stable relationship, someone who has plans and goals for his future .
What makes me motivated is once I shop i discover a bikini i quite wanna put on this summer season and it motivates me to look just right in my bikinii also thinking bout how excellent i will seem will get me prompted and displaying individuals that i havent noticeable in a even as how just right i look also makes me inspired additionally i get stimulated to run extra considering i think opposite alternatively of considering wow i ran two miles im performed im like two miles.. Thats it i will be able to double that and i like fight with beating my own self you ought to appear at what motivates you... Think concerning the belfast marathon and you dont wanna come in last so that be motivation or if you're doing it for weight loss have a goal weight be your motivation or if you are watching simply to finish have that be your purpose the marathon is gonna sneak up so rapid and you dont want it to be every week before and you're like dang i acquired to hit the gymnasium plus in case you begin figuring out slowly and growing your time spent figuring out or your depth and soon itll turn out to be aside of your daily existence as an alternative of like a chore good success!!!
well i believe it depends on you.
i've got a friend that his girlfriend is the laziest female on the face of the earth. she works in the summers, but spends from October until April living on unemployment ( seasonal work as bartender). so from October until about now, she just lays in bed all day, barely leaves the house. sometimes she's so lazy she won't get up to give their dogs drinking water/take them outside to pee. she likes to complain. especially when it involves him wanting to go out and do stuff (anything). she wants him to just sit at home with her. he doesn't mind that some of the time, but he'd much rather be outside doing things. but for some reason or another, they stay together. i think she hampers his lifestyle somewhat, but at the same time if he wants to go out and do something, he'll go and do it. leaving her at home to whine and moan about how he never spends anytime with her. it's a very unhealthy relationship.
so while i do think it affects him somewhat, he just chooses to do his best going on with whatever he wants to do.
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