I was with my boyfriend for a year and two months, but we split up just over a month ago because things just weren't working anymore but we both said we wanted to remain friends.
For about a week after he kept texting me saying he missed me and still loved me and we met up a few times.
Then just suddenly one day he didn't want to know me anymore and completely changed. Now he is a completely different person to what he was when i new him.
He accused me off going on his facebook and pretending to be him and has also said to my friends not to be mates with me because i'm a *****.
Even though this has all happened i still love him and can't seem to get over him and it feels like i won't ever.
I just don't understand how he has got over me so quickly when we were so good together before things went wrong.
i have seen him around and he has been wearing clothes which i have brought him, but he will never talk to me.
I just want to be able to talk to him again but i can't and i don't know what to do.
Update:He also had another girl about 2 weeks after we split which didnt last and she was playing him.
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Okay you have very conflicting emotions here. You say you broke up because things weren't working and then you don't understand how he got over you when you were sooo good together. You weren't good together, that's why you broke up remember? What you're feeling is not love. It's confusion and insecurity and maybe a bit of regret . . but it's not love. You now sort of want him because you don't have him and you feel he doesn't want you. I'm sure if he wanted you, but was still a jerk, you wouldn't want him.
Do yourself the biggest favor of your life and leave this guy behind. Can you imagine being married to someone that you're not compatible with? When you're young and infatuated things are easily overlooked...but look at all those married people out there who are miserable because they chose or stayed with the wrong person because of stupid emotions like this........
There is a guy out there who is perfect for you, trust me. You never want to stay with the guy who is anything less than ideal. I don't mean perfect, there are NO perfect people period. But you only get one kick at the can, life is way too short and you deserve to be happy.
Go out, date some people, have fun, enjoy life because before you know it you will be settling down and stuck with all the responsibility and decisions that come with maturity.
Your Mr. Right is out there for you, just not right NOW.
Dump the ex for good, take care of yourself and settle for only the best - no substitutes!!
Ok, you have to understand guys do this type of thing. Sometimes right after the break up they immediately want you back and if you show no sympathy for them, they get angry and want to shut you out completely in hopes that it will hurt you really badly. OR they might do the opposite where they act tough when you break up and say they don't need you, when deep down they know they will miss the heck out of you and break down after a week or two - sometimes even a month and start harassing you to get back together. My boyfriend of 5 years has done both (mind you we only broke up twice in the past five years) the first time we were together 2 years and I broke up with him - he acted angry for a week and didnt want anything to do with me and after that week passed he started calling saying his missed me and so forth. the second time was a few weeks ago I broke up with him again but this time he was extremely heart broken and so sorry for the reasons I decided to leave him and after 2 days i still showed him I wasnt caving into his apology and he got angry at me and showed me he didnt need me - needless to say we are back together (we have a child so we must try hard to make it work) Anyways so that is how guys are - your scenario seems like number 1 - deep down he still misses you i am sure, he is just probably more concerned of what others would think of him if he takes you back right now - he is trying to make you suffer for not taking him back right away and trying to make it work. thats what i think anyway. He is testing you. Guys want us to beg...and wait on them.
Its a hard reality but perhaps you should consider that love isnt just about how you feel about him but how he makes you feel about yourself. Where is the respect? It seems he has none for you and without respect, you have neither trust or real love. What is it about him that makes it so hard to let go. When we think of past loves, we usually remember the good things about them and not necessarily the bad. You deserve love dear and you should demand love and respect out of any man your with. It sounds like he was just fishing for a way to get you to break up with him, either way he is either a *** or very immature. Neither is helpfull in a realtionship. Take some time to work on your own self esteem and let him go. The pain will pass and you will be wiser in the end..
I know it hurts but it's best to not talk to him anymore. That's the only way you're going to be able to fully move on.
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get him help sounds like hes on drugs