Ok so theres this guy thats really cute and i really like him and he asked me out on tuesday. at first i said yes and i was really happy, but i had to tell him i couldn't because i'm not allowed to date untill i'm 16 (which will be in may). i told him i could go out with him but we couldn't let my brother(who goes to our school) or my parents find out, so we'd have to be real secretive. he said ok but then today he told me he thinks we sould wait till i'm allowed to so we don't have to sneak around. it's really sweet that he's willing to wait but i don't want him to have to wait. it's not really fair to him that i'm not allowed to date. i want to tell him that i won't be offened if he asks someone else out if he doesn't want to wait for me, but i also dont want to say that and have him think that i dont wanna go out with him cause i really do i just don't want to be unfair to him. what should i do?
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Hi,
I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years now, and in my experience, if a guy is really serious about u and him, he means what he says. period. if he says he's ok with waiting, then that's exactly how he feels. Buut, if it really bothers you that he's not with another girl(sounds kinda silly huh) then talk to him, if u can't be open about simple stuff like that, then i can promise u u won't be together for long. Just be urself, and take it slow, come may and u'll realize that he was worth the wait
If I was that guy I would definitly be fine with waiting till then. Its not really that big of a deal. Just spend alot of time with him, (Ie, at school, at lunch, etc etc) Just so he remembers what you guys said. You can be friends with a guy if your not going out yknow?
i have the same problems.
it sweet of him to consider your consequences if your brother caught you.
if your paretns are down ask if you can date 5 months early.
exlpain its nothing serious just going out at schhol.
tell them you dont have to go out on dates, dates till may.
see if that works.
good luck!
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its nice of you to want to let him date anyway but if you really want to be with him then dont let him or at least dont tell him cause if he does and decides he likes them better then it might ruin your chance.... but do what you feel im just telling you what i think.....
he did the right thing by listening to your parents. and it seems like he respects you. so, it does seem like he cares. just see if he waits..