My dad despises my boyfriend! Help!?
My boyfriend and I are both 17 and have been dating for three months now. I finally brought him to see my family and have dinner at my house. When my bf got there my dad started making rude comments about the way my bf dresses, (he has spiked (5") black hair, a lip ring, two tattoos, and wears a lot of black). My dad started calling him a f a g g o t and a low life punk. He also took my bf into the living room while we were eating and started screaming at him after finding out that my bf is an atheist. He called my bf a devil worshipper because he is an atheist and listens to old school punk music. That was a week ago and since then i have barely been able to see him. How can I get my dad to see the good side of my bf!?
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Tell your boyfriend to remove the lip ring, cover the tattoos, get a decent hair cut, and stop listening to that gay music. Generally just tell him to stop acting like an idiot. Also tell your boyfriend he should have dressed appropriately before meeting the parents. Tell him to be normal and dress like a normal person and he will be fine.
Well what did you expect your dad to do once he met him looking like that , i am not going to judge him because just because he looks like that don't mean he is a punk. You should have warned your father and told him a bunch of positive things about your boyfriend before he met him. Is he still in school, does he go to church, is he respectful towards his parents, why does he dress like that . Those are some of the things you could have talk to your parent about before bringing him over . I want you to thing about this , if i was your child and i bought a guy over that looked like a gang banger what would you think. Even if he was not a gang banger but my first expression would not be good. Good luck with your parents i hope things work out
Personally, I like atheists. I am one. But, your bf sounds like a loser. So, I don't blame your dad. Yes, it is superficial of me to say that a 17 year old guy with tats and a lip ring is a loser, but he is. I'm sure he's a nice guy. I'm sure you're in love. But unless this guy has his act together in a lot of other ways (like, say, he's making a lot of money doing something entrepreneurial), he needs to go. Sorry, it's not the answer you want to hear, but your dad is right and he's just trying to look out for your best interest.
doesn't really sound like there is a good side of this guy to be found
i feel that when people dress like that, they're doing it for attention. this dude may have his own issues, or he may need to feel wanted, or whatever.
I say trust your parents on this one, they used to be your age you know
Well my advice is you find a boyfriend that your father approves of . Because he's family and should come first in front of all other men that are in your life.
You asked this earlier. Quit it.