I’ve known this guy friend for about a year. We had crushes on each other when we met and we started dating soon after. We are both 18 and we were each other’s first boyfriend/girlfriend. We were on and off a lot, mostly due to his confusions and immaturity and not knowing what he wanted, or getting upset about what a relationship should be and how others saw us and physical intimacy.

We are exclusive with each other but he kind of freaks out when the title boyfriend/girlfriend is used. Lately we have been talking about going farther physically, until just recently he said he doesn’t want to have sex now and that it doesn’t have anything to do with me, just his opinion on physical. He kept saying all this stuff like how he knows he has put me through pain in the last year.

But he still says when we are together things are wonderful, but then his confusion/thoughts get in the way and mess things up. He said the confusion has nothing to do with me but that he plans to tell me more about it and he fears it might make me upset, just because (does that mean it's something bad?).

His parents are getting divorced and he hasn’t seen very many good/functional relationships in his life. We have recently been getting into fights and when I asked if he wanted to develop the emotional part of our relationship, he said no, that he doesn't have many friends and he just wants to do friendship. I really love this guy and I want us to be together. Is there anything I can do?