im always in a anti-social mood...and i get depressed because i cant socialize like anyone else...like lets say im with a girl and i see birds on the sidewalk.a normal person will point out the birds on the side walk like "look at the birds :D" but when i want to say something about the birds my mind tells me that there is no purpose of pointing out the birds and it will not change a thing in our friendship,and if i do point out the birds i'll stutter and/or say something like "look the birds" i think that sounds stupid as hell!! why is this happening and how could i change??
my parents keep telling me that i have the power to change,and i do have the power to change..i just dont know how to change...my dad even gets mad at me when im in a group and im not socializing and he gets angry and he tells me to change but i dont know how!!
my anti sociallity is driving me into a deep depression because i cant make a friend or can't get or mantain a girlfriend..ive tried drugs and it totally helps but i dont want to do drugs forever knowing i will be worse than i was before..can you please help me???
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I want to say how sorry I am you are feeling this way I have trouble socializing as well and have anxiety. Mostly because I feel I'll come across as awkward or lame in front of people. I was also bullied in school and had low self esteem and that didn't help. At one time my dad would yell at me when i wouldn't socialize or get a girlfriend I felt he was mad because I wasn't one of the cool kids. You just need to be yourself and not let your dad get you down try to talk to him about how you feel and get hm to understand even though it's hard to get dads to listen especially of your a guy. If that doesn't work ignore him do what makes you feel good and when you talk to a girl don't doubt a conversation starter don't think everything you say will be dumb because she might think it's funny or cool. Don't feel so down on yourself there are people out there who will accept you for who you are and those are the people you should really care about. Yes you can change but do it at your pace not when people tell you to. I hope things get better for you and you find the happiness you're looking for.
Hi, I work as a mental health carer currently doing a diploma in mental health studies and social care,
please dont beat yourself up on this issue, it sounds really mad as I am now working within mental health but I had severe anxiety even about general things like you mentioned you dont want too sound silly. theres a few options you can go about and obviously I AM NOT telling you that you have anxiety nor am i stepping in the place of a doctor but these are the things you could try and if these dont work then please dont be scared to seek help from a doctor
1st try talking to your girlfriend about this or if she says something come back with a proper reply rather than a one word answer.
2nd harder option which worked ecentually for myself if to put yourself when your comfortable in the situation when there are a lot of things too notice and comment on ie the park or a zoo etc
please never think that what you say is stupid we have been given the power of words and like your parents say you do have the power to change it however sometimes we all need a little help :-)
good luck :-)
See a doctor. Depression is very serious. Please get professional help immediately.