Can anyone help a loser/loner with some existential problems?
I've been a loner my whole life. Now that I'm a freshman in college I see everybody looking all perfect and happy, chatting with their friends while I walk around campus mindlessly by myself for hours. The problem is I want to have an existence, but I don't know how. I've tried to be happy being alone but it's just great, great pain. I can't make real friends because everybody is very cool and metro and I'm like the ugly duckling amongst all students. I feel like it would seem fake/not real if I just tried to be someone else. What can I do?
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The most important thing is to be yourself. People who will be true friend's to you will accept you as who you are. The worst thing you can do is try and pretend to be someone you're not. People can see right through that.
If you're looking to meet people, think about going and doing things you enjoy. Like animals? Volunteer at an animal shelter. Future author? Take a writing workshop.
If you're in college, there's plenty of activities on campus for you to partake in. Find a religious organization, political group, or just join a game of Ultimate Frisbee.
You'll find like-minded people who enjoy doing what you enjoy by doing the things you enjoy doing.
you are a freshman, none of the others are perfectly happy, they are just faking it. go to the college library, find someone who is not too busy, and ask about their experience at the college, ask them if it would be an issue if you posed several, well thought out questions about their making friends. Break the ice, that is all you have to do...everyone there is trying to find themselves, why not you?
Have a party and invite everyone, join a sport and theyll have to take to ya and be nice to ya cause your a team. Just be yourself, find something in common with them and talk about it. Learn a cool song or dance and show them. Just don't imbarress yourself;)