Divorced parents issue...?
Okay, so, about 2 months ago my mother divorced my dad after 19 years, but they are still friends, and not mad at each other. Mom left because she'd found a "new" person at work, which explains she was so "busy" all the time. But the problem is here; Mom moved there, to this new person's house, so I switch back and forth each week. Well, after a few days in there I found loooots of his p0rnmagazines and dvd's, bookmarks on his iPad etc, and I just can't live with a guy who jerks off every other day while watching thins like that. And even when my mom is home! That's just disrespectful... Now, I'd like to tell mom and dad about this because honestly, I hate him. But mom seems so happy now, so...
Should I tell her? I don't know...
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Awwwwwwwww! Don't be selfish.
If they didn't have an acrimonious divorce and your mom is happy. Making a big thing about this will make you mom & dad's relationship tense and upset your mom.
why do you hate him? bc of what you found or bc you think he's the reason they got divorced?
if it bothers you seeing all that stuff (and if it's actually out in the open and you didn't go snooping into his private stuff), tell your mom you don't want to see all that stuff.
but think about your mom... AND your dad. think of how it will make him feel.
and you don't say why you were going through his bookmarks or where the magazines and dvds are...
but if they were put away, stop going through his stuff.
this might be hard for you to understand, but your mom might not think it's disrespectful. they might even look at some of it together. don't judge them - that part of their lives is really none of your business if they don't expose you to it.
Talk to your father about it. He seems to be the more "grounded" of your parents.
there is nothing wrong with porn. i am sure your fatehr is watching it and maybe your mother is watching it as well. grow up