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You know what, counselling and stuff doesnt work. I have tried that it never works. What has happened in your marriage is that one person started having too much domination and control over you, so much so that that person went ahead and emotionally hurt you when you were intimate driving you away. Now what you have is resentment. That resentment is not letting you move forward and get back to the point of intimacy where you guys were. Its easy to work on sexual problems if resentment is not involved but if God forbid that is the case then I hate to say that something drastic might happen. Either you or the other partner would wanna get out and from your question it seems you are the one who wants to get out of it.

Time to hit the marriage counselor, pronto. How long a sexless marriage lasts depends on the participants, but if one or both partners is uphappy, regardless of the reasons, the marriage is doomed if it doesn't get fixed. A professional counselor will help you unearth the real reasons this marriage is going sour. The sex is the SYMPTOM of your problem, not the cause. Call a counselor today!

Good luck!

Has it always been like this?

Some people have a very low sex drive and yes problems do occur when mismatched.

If wasn't always like that then the person with the problems needs to see the Doctor first as could be a medical reason.Sex is a subject allot of us still feel reluctant to talk about but in a marriage communication is vital and getting the help.

Good Luck.

Has this sex issue always been like this, or was it occuring more often at one point - then somehow got to the point of non-existence? If you had a normal sex life at one time, yet your sex life has reduced to this, then there is something going on that you partner may not be telling you. I have gotten like this before with my fiance, and it was due to him not meeting my emotional needs. When he wasn't meeting my emotional needs I didn't want to be intimate with him, I didn't feel close to him. And honestly, the fact that he was neglecting my needs made me upset and frustrated with him to the point that sex was the last thing on my mind, and sometimes even me shudder at the though of it. Perhaps this is the case, are you meeting your partner's emotional needs? You should have a serious talk with them and find out what has changed in the relationship - because at some point something changed to cause this outcome. I think if you can find the root to the problem and solve it, this situation should be able to be resolved. Hope this helps :)

Wow...I've been there and done that. My ex simply decided at age 37 that she was ready to become celibate. I wasn't. I begged and pleaded for a couple of years. We probably had sex 5 or 6 times in those two years. That was all I could do and left. If a marriage starts that way then maybe it can work. I just don't know of any that started near sexless.

thats tricky because it could mean many things.

sometimes a person might not know why they arent in the mood to have sex and it complicates things because the other person feels rejected.

maybe that person doesnt wanna have sex because they feel unattractive. even if they are beautiful everyone sees themselves differently. also they might think they r bad in bed. even if you guys are married it doesnt matter i know from experience im studying to be a therapist so this can all be options. also they juust dont enjoy sex and that could be medical reasons i think both of you should see a doctor and figure this out.

it could be many things

i dont think the marriage will fail but i think if this is not taken care of then yes it might fail because of unwilliness to try to make it work. both of u should feel comfortable enough to talk about this issue try to figure it out and try to come to a conclusion.. it maybe mean going to a therapist, or going to see your doctor, or just talking it out and seeing whats really going on and if theres anything that will change this.

good luckkk

I don't believe a sexless marriage is necessarily due to fail, but it can severely strain a marriage. especially if the couple has very different sex drives. It seems like there are more and more couples though, facing this situation today. (including myself) I'm not sure why this is happening, except that there are more stresses and distractions today than there ever were.

yes I would think that it cant last long.. it will cause stress in the relationship.. I would not want to be in a non sex relationship.wish you the best but most of the time these do not get better through time..

Depends on the individuals. Personally, I would try to discuss things and see what is the reasons and cause for it to be declining etc.. I would also get into some counseling.

I went one year with no sex. After that I went on-line and met someone. I had an affair. My ex hated me and one night she promised to put a knife in my heart. I left that night and when I returned she tried to committ suicide and was in the hospital for mentally disturbed. She remained there for about 3 weeks. We divorced after that. Never spoke to her since. (9 years ago)