I am a freshman in high school and my life is pretty good. I am a descent football player (although I took a year off), I play the guitar, I sing, I have a ton of friends, good grades, and all my teachers have fairly high opinions of me, I should be happy. Deep down though I am angry, tormented and I feel very empty and alone. I like a sophomore girl and she and I are friends but not great friends, we hang out in a group of people at school. We talk sometimes and I have texted her on a single occasion, it was over about 5 hours but only about 52 messages, she would take about twenty minutes to respond and at a certain point took an hour to respond. I texted her a couple days later no response, the next day I texted her and again no response, I texted her again multiple days later and no response. I have been very secretive about who I tell, I have only told my best friend and another very close friend. However there is another person I have considered telling, he is the boyfriend of the best friend of the girl I like. We are pretty good friends and I trust him relatively well, but there are reasons not to tell him, My best friend has advised me against it but they don't really like each other and this may have clouded his judgment, also his girlfriend, I do not trust her at all not to tell this girl I like her, I need to make this guy promise to under no circumstance tell his girlfriend that I like her bestfriend. Anyway back to the main issue, whenever I see couples happy together I get angry, and worse yet I get randomly angry, It's so easy for everyone else it seems, but not me, I want to be with her incredibly bad. I mean I can make her laugh, somewhat, I made a brief joke a few days ago (not immensely funny, but just slightly witty) and she smiled a little bit, I also made a few jokes while we were texting and it got me a couple haha's at the beginning of the texts. This girl I want to be with her. I think she looks beautiful in absolutely anything, I could spend hours talking to her about anything, When I think about committing to her, and no one else and taking all of her problems as my own, there's not a shadow of a doubt that's what I want to do. I miss her when she Isn't around and even when she is the fact I'm not her boyfriend makes me upset, It torments me constantly.
Q: how do I stop the torment and emptiness?
BQ: Should I ask the boyfriend of her bestfriend for advice?
BBQ: When should I text her again?
BBBQ: Any suggestions on how I can go out with this girl?
BBBBQ: Is it normal for a teenage boy to be so unafraid of commitment and want a relationship where sex isn't even involved, until marriage?
BBBBBQ: How can I ever have a future with this girl, she won't even text me back? Is there any other reason why she would only have responded to the original text and then never again?
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Getting the girl to fall in love with you can be easy if you make her happy and give her a reason to fall in love. Offering your love to her is one sure fire way to get her to fall in love with you. Love is not something that will happen overnight, but if your intentions are good and you treat the girl right, she'll find you irresistible and find it almost impossible not to fall in love with you.
1. Make her happy. If you want the girl to fall in love with you, just make her the center of your respect and admiration. Treat her well and do things that you know will make her happy. A girl will most likely fall in love with a guy when she knows she is important to him. Make her smile, make her laugh, and show her that she can be happy with you. She'll fall in love with you before you know it.
2. Offer her support and friendship. Encouraging her fall in love isn't just about you, it's about offering her a shoulder to cry on, someone to talk to, and a friend to be there when she needs you most. A woman will not open herself up to a man who cannot be a friend to her. In order to fall in love, a woman needs someone who will listen to her fears and troubles and know that you're being sincere.
3. Give her attention and lavish her with love. If you want a woman to fall in love with you, you have to show her how much she means to you. Telling her how you feel is great, but showing her your love is the key. Kiss her often, cuddle her, and do sweet things for her like making dinner, giving her a massage, or picking her a rose. When a woman knows how much she means to you, this helps her feel secure and increases the chance that she'll fall in love with you.
4. Show her that your sincere and genuine. A woman needs security to fall in love, just as anyone does, and if you show her that your feelings and intentions are real, she'll be more likely to fall head over heels in love with you. A woman knows when someone is not being true...it's called woman's intuition. So, if she senses your not being genuine with her, she will not let you in. If your honest and real with the woman you care for, she'll offer the same in return and love will bloom before you know it.
Tone down the drama. Go out with groups of young people,and have fun. You can date when you have a car and money to do the job correctly. Until then, be resigned to be friends with the neighborhood girls.