unless I'm having a fling or a flirt relationship. I know this sounds shallow, but it's just the way I feel.
I am well educated, intelligent, attractive, friendly, etc....I'm in a long-lasting relationship and I have great kids and a wonderful career.
I'm also 40. But to be honest, I have felt this way much of my adult life. I still hear how "hot" I am but inside, mentally & emotionally, I just don't feel that way unless I flirt.
Monogamy is so boring I can't believe this is the cultural norm. I admit, I have had affairs. I didn't do it to be cruel and I was "careful". My spouse was never cold or unavailable, the fault does lie with me. I have been faithful now for 2 years, determined to not stray anymore and I am so bored.
I have no sex drive with my spouse and feel no chemistry. I love him, am devoted as far as remaining with him and will never leave him for someone else, but being monogamous just isn't for me.
Is there anyone else who feels this way? I don't need to hear criticism, I say it to myself enough.
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For once, I'll be serious as an answerer.
It's not for others to judge. Western society has made marital monogamy the cultural norm due largely to religious influences (Christian-Judeo).
In many 2nd and 3rd world countries, polygamy and extra-marital relationships are the norm and they do not have the divorce rates we have (I'm assuming you're from north america). Nor do they experience bouts of jealousy and argue about petty crap like "why were you looking at another woman?"
But as far as what to do about it, I have no clue. It's your decision, you have to live with your choices.
either join a Congan tribe or get your shag on!