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You sound a lot like me in ways when I was your age. This is totally normal. As you get older, you will find yourself growing out of these social issues. TRUST ME. I freaked out a lot around boys, talking to boys, making eye contact with people, took criticism so personally, etc. But it gets better in time. Trust me. This is just a stage, and I'm sure many feel just like you.

Following Amanda's answer, yes you have a very low self esteem.

And like Sara you could overcome your problem with the span of time.

But at present you are suffering your condition.

These things happen depending on your family situation.

Are your family members the same as you?

If they are, you have learned from them and they will keep reforcing your behavior.

You will need professional help, like a behavior modification specialist.

You can work with assertivity acquisition.

Their are two types of basic behaviors: aggressiveness and submissiveness.

The correct is assertiveness which is in between those two.

This issuet takes a lengthy explanation, not appropriate here.

Seek a professional that will make you model the appropriate behavior: like acting what you want to do in real life. That's role playing.

Forget those sofa psychiatrists and psychologists.

And, up to where I understand, you don't need medication.

I am not a psychologist or mental health specialist, I am a sociologist, thus this is my sincere opinion.

Please seek a behavior modification and assetivity trainer to help with your problem.

All we can do through these posts is give you simple advise, you need someone at your side to guide you to change your submissive feelings.

Sincerely,

Antonios

You've got low self esteem and social anxiety it seems like. You're stressed about what other's think about you and you probably try to please everyone at all times. Therapy could really help with something like this. It happens to a lot of people, you're not alone and it doesn't make you weird or different in any way.