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Trust me . . . if the guy is really straight and a virgin, he is thrilled with the idea of sex on the honeymoon, LOL.

If your guy is not, then something is seriously wrong with this picture. Do NOT marry him.

First of all your story is way too long so I skimmed and this is your problem...you paid $11,000 for good sex from your fiance now wife and didn't get it? So you are a glorified John? If the sex was blah before what makes you think it would be better just because you shelled out extra money for it? Honeymoons are for sex but also for touring around or laying in the pool or doing things together. Sorry you feel you got robbed in the situation but your expectations seemed quite high.

Did he say why he was not comfortable with the idea?

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. As Christians we decided as part of dedicating our marriage to God, we would wait 3 days after our wedding day to be intimate for the 1st time (symbolic of Christ being in the grave for 3 days). But that was like fasting -- giving up something you want. He wanted to make love with me!! I think that the question is why he doesn't feel comfortable. Is it fear? If it insecurity? You need to get to the bottom of this!!

He then has a problem with sex. Cause even being a virgin he should still want sex on his honeymoon....You going to live the rest of your life not having it cause he is uncomfortable?

I would try to understand. But I would feel differently. Sex is also about trust and love -- the ideal of it at least. So, I would feel disappointed for the most part because my new husband is not comfortable with me yet

I would tell him that honeymoons are traditionally where virgins lose their virginity. There will never be a better time or place than tonight. Let's try and see what happens.

I would be really mystified and worried that there was something else he wasn't being honest about....even a virgin groom is looking forward to the sex part of being married!

Ok, well...I'd ask him what I could do to make him feel comfortable about it.

Also, I'd want to know when he planned on losing it, since the Honeymoon should be the most romantic time to do such things.

get him drunk he will loosen up That's the good think about being a virgin your first time is with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I still think you need to get him drunk ;) he will be all for it then good luck because that would really suck if he wont

He must consummate (I may have spelled or pronounced that wrong) the marriage, or it's not a valid marriage until he does. Get naked and pounce on him like a wild ferocious lioness and make him. Teach him a thing or two.