Basically, This weekend me and my girlfriend of 9 months were at a party with some of my college friends to celebrate the end of exams. Now, the vast majority of my friends are either bisexual or gay (fairly even mix of boys and girls) but i have always considered myself as straight, as i have never had a sexual experience with a guy and have never wanted to. But at this party we were all pretty drunk and although me and my girlfriend are very committed to each other and love each other, neither of us are particularly fussed about having a quick kiss with another person for a laugh so long as the other person knows and there is nothing behind it. We are all incredibly easy going, and she is bisexual and kissed several girls, but when i kissed a guy i know, i actually quite enjoyed it. This makes me feel quite unsure as i know i wouldn't go much further with a guy than that even if i was single, but it's making me wonder whether i am straight or bi? either way my first preference is girls, but i also cant help but feel slightly guilty as he is a really close friend/band member and he is one of the few friends my girlfriend already knew at the party. She knows how i feel and is completely understanding (she came out to me before anyone else which was really hard for her). I know it's long so i really appreciate all you reading it, Thanks x
Update:@ Dr Kels in all honesty i have very little true experience with anyone Me and my girlfriend both had our first times with each other and although i had various other sexual experiences with other girls, really i am quite inexperienced. But as i mentioned above, i am in a serious relationship.
Answers & Comments
Without any desire to be rude, you can't know until you try more than a kiss. I won't detail the what, I'm sure you can guess, but inmate contact with either gender may give you your answer?
Again with respect I have to partially disagree with Joel. We are born gay or we are not. Certainly outside influences can be assumed, but we cannot be turned or converted. The problem I find with Bi relationships is a sometimes shallow commitment regarding wanting both genders attentions...That also might depend on any partner you might connect with who is not so open minded.
One's sexual orientation is primarily based upon one's preferences, moral/religious code, and social norms. There's nothing biological or permanent that makes one gay, straight, or bi. Most straight men are turned off from homosexuality because it is either against their religion, there is a strong non-masculine social stigma against it, or both. Take, for example, ancient Greece where homosexuality was commonplace (possibly more common than straight sex), because there simply was no religious or social taboos against it.
So back to your question, don't think you are gay just because you kissed a guy when you were drunk. But don't think that you "can't" be gay either. It's your own decision.