So I've been dating this guy who has bipolar/depression for a few months now and have come used to his 'episodes'. One minute he seems fine and all loving with me, then a couple hours later he up and texts me ME DAY LEAVE ME ALONE. Like out of no where this 'mood' comes on. And today out of no where he wakes up, says he loves me, 2 hours later says ME DAY again which means, hes having a mood again and so im like ok w/e enjoy your bipolar time and i get a message later saying hes done with me. He swears hes not in a mood but my god this is out of no where. I dont know how to deal with someone who has this. Does anyone else experience this with a bipolar bf? One minute he loves you and the next hes literally telling you to go away and let me be. He has very bad insomnia, never wants to eat much. He was on bi polar meds but stopped them for some reason and just takes depression meds now. I love this guy so much but now he wants nothing to do with me anymore and ive done nothing wrong. How do you deal with someone with bipolar? Should I let him be for tonight and see if its better tomorrow . Im so lost right now and upset :(
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I have not personally, but my best friend is dating someone with bi polar disorder. Whenever she talks to me about her boyfriend, its always bad. I don't talk to him much, but that's because hes a brat. Well, a horny brat that like to smoke and drink. He lies, cheats on her, 'borrows' money without paying her back, has crazy mood swings that he thinks are made up to her with a text message that says "sorry baby, your the best thing in my life, i don't know what I would do without you... etc etc", and a whole bunch of other crap.
I will tell you the same thing I tell her. Hes no good for you, and that just because he's bi polar it does not give him an excuse to do the things he does.
I just hope that you actually listen to my advice. Maybe after losing a girlfriend because he can't control himself when he is having a mood, he might actually try harder.
I don't know personally. But my mate goes out with a guy with bi-polar and I feel so sorry for her cause he's such a jerk sometimes for no reason. I can excuse all his behavior because of his illness, but I see she struggles. But bottom line they love each other very much. She just does whatever he says so it doesn't make his mood any worse. I think you should check up on him, but if he tells you to leave him and you think he'll be ok, I think just let him be. I seriously wouldn't go out with someone with bi-polar because you may love him, but there could also be someone else out there that you'd love more and wouldn't have these episodes. Be there for him though
I had a father who was bipolar. My mother would always warn not to do what she did by saying: "Men are like cars. If the car crashes once, you might think 'oh, it was only this once it's ok I'll ride it again' and then it crashes again and you get injured." If a man is "broken" don't continue. Please, do it for yourself. Sure, he might be so sweet one moment, but if you two became a family when he's having one of his "moods" he could seriously hurt you or your family. Before it gets worse, please end it. It's hard, but it's for you. He shouldn't make you miserable. Don't tell him when he's in one of his moods. He could harm you. My mother was miserable from her choice. Please, help yourself. You're the most important person to yourself.
I hope I can help. Don't feel lonely and alone. If you don't want to break up with him right now, try seeing a therapist. Talk to a professional. Good luck. (:
Does your boyfriend have a prognosis from a psychiatrist? If he does, he must be taking a temper stabilizer. If he does not there might be different causes he acts the best way he does. Maybe he does not desire to make a dedication, or perhaps he thinks you are retaining onto him too tightly and now not giving him any area.