ok so i am like totally in love head over heals with this guy, and he is also my best friend. He texts me all the time and we talk non stop and he tells me everything.... especially about the girl he loves, Julia. :(. he always says things like "god i know it this time for sure, i love her i really do" and it makes me sick because he always asks me for help and its so hard because i know that shes a slut. she just wants him to fall back on, she doesnt really love him the way he loves her. She wants to hook up with other guys, but always have him there for her to fall back on. He is her safety net and it kills me to know that we could be something but that slut is in the way. He always asks for my advice and since he's my best friend, i always telll him exactly waht to do so they are on good terms.
Hes my best friend, so yes i help him and i never mess anything up between them. I want the best for him, and since he loves her i guess he should be with her.
But a part of me knows taht i could be such a better girlfriend than she is, and i know i would be so happy with him and he would never have to worry about me cheating and we would be happy.
I want him to be happy and i want hte best for him, and personally i think the best for him is to be with me, but he loves her.
he LOVES her and i LOVE him.
what do i do!?!?!?! it kills me when he says things like "Julias on the phone right now, i need your hlep what do is say"
or things like
"i got her this necklace, do yout hink she'll like it"
why can't that be me.
i need advice, i just wanna like talk.
just advise me, or just say something
thanks, for your time.
merry christmas everyone!!!
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Yeah, this is a very unbalanced friendship because you have more-than-friends feelings for him and his heart is not reciprocating in that way. But you can't let go because he does like you a lot as a friend. It also sounds like he has a taste for shallow romance, which seems a little immature. I'm not saying that as an insult, everyone is born a baby and some grow up faster than others. As long as he is into the shallow aspects of life, you may be able to entice him in shallow ways. Consider attracting him by dressing in more alluring ways around him and being flirty with him. If that works, then you get the best of both worlds... someone who appreciates you for friendship and is attracted to your looks too (yes people can like each other both shallow and deep). But if that doesn't work, then maybe you just aren't his "type" as far as appearance or personality goes for romance, even though he seems very much interested in your friendship. That would be time to make a tough decision to get some distance and focus on other friends, otherwise you'll just be heartbroken over and over. So in a nutshell... try alluring/flirty and hope for the best, but be prepared to let go and back out if it doesn't work. Don't worry, if he isn't the one for you, there are 3 billion other guys out there in the world. So statistically there must be millions who are great for you unless you are really hard to get along with, right? =) Good luck!
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