We've been going out for a year now, and about once every month he has a "phase."
It includes him being paranoid, over protective, depressed, stressed, jealous, clingy, ill, and he tends to over think a lot during his phase.
The phases start to happen when he has problems at home.
Currently, the family problem is...well, me. His mum is annoyed; she thinks I'm "taking him away from her", and that he's obsessed with me. I feel guilty, but at the same time I don't understand why it's my fault.
Last night I was tired, so I tried to cut our phone call short and it triggered it. He started saying sorry for a load of stuff that mainly he hasn't done, or I didn't even notice it.
He knows he does it, he says he's going to have a paranoid breakdown and it's making him ill already.
What can I do? Is this normal? Should I be worried?
Thanks, sorry for the length :)
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No it's not normal to frequently have anxiety. It will get worse if he does not seek help. I guarantee you it will!
You're a smart girl. So trust your instincts. This guy isn't emotionally stable. Which doesn't mean that he isn't a good guy. It just means his emotions are erratic and needs help. What he is doing is a cry for help. I would put pause, (not a break-up), to focus on him getting better by improving his home situation and himself. Get him to seek professional help.
lets look at what mom said "you are taking him away from her". I sense sarcasm in that but none the less as long as you mak him proud that your his gf then his mom will be proud. cause isnt that what parents want of their kids?
Now if she says that cause he iisnt cleaning his room or helping around the house perhaps she then thinks he spends too much time since those chores are getting done. Im sure if he were to hang out with guy friends a lot she would say the same so I dont thinkk she totally directed that part at you;
Also consider how often you get into arguments. with my ex she yelled at me a lot and that pry made me clingier since at the time I was a fraid to lose her especially during or time of month when she is grumpy.
Hope This Helps!
I'm sure hes fine just needs to be felt safe and loved by all you, his family, friends but if it gets bad and he dose have a brakedown then take him to a docter!
From Harry!
Good Luck!
It sounds like him mom is playing games with his head where you're concerned. I don't know that there is a whole lot you can do about it though. You can try to reassure him but past that I'm not sure.
tell him to get off all pshychotropics, tell him to ease off on the masturbation and focus on diet, (small multi vitamins supplement) and exercise, tell him to find 3 thing he like to do and get good at them.
if you love him help him out with his sperm factory, use your hands with lotion, use soap in the shower,
he sounds insure...mostly due to his unsettled home life...
GET HIM HELP