My names Jacinta and I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16 years old. My boyfriend and I had been dating for 2 months and 2 weeks until last night. My parents are really strict and didn't want me having a boyfriend that was 2 years older then me. Anyway, they didn't want me kissing him or anything and I recently bought a new phone. I left my phone in the lounge room and my dad read my messages from him and they talked about us making out, my Dad made me break up with him, he hit me and everything because i didn't want to give him my phone to prove the messages. I broke up with him because I was forced too but we both still have such strong feelings for each other. My mum is being realy supportive and I was thinking about asking her if I can go back out with him in a couple of weeks. Do you think I should just move on, or ask her? Please help, I can't stop crying.
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Just move on.
Im sorry for your pain sweetie. Im sure your dad didnt mean to hit you. he is only trying to protect you. You have to remember your parents are there to guide you and your only 14. this guy is 16 so hes a male and older and who knows how long he will last with you and for what reason!
your family will still be there always no matter what. Id let things cool down at home and I wouldnt ask your mum just yet. If you feel you can talk to her then leave it for a while. Tell your bf what happened and ask him to respect your situation.
if he cares about you he will not push it and wait. You can stay friends if it doesnt change and if he cares he will do that! Im sorry but your only 14 and your very young and i wouldnt be very comfortable if you were my daughter dating a 16yr old.
just see how things pan out and if your allowed to , make your folks feel more comfortable by bringing him home and seeing how nice he is. they might change their minds once they see him. Try not to do anything silly and dont talk dirty on any phone again. thats the first place parents look or on your computer!
cheers
Well you shouldn't be crying at all, you haven't actually lost him
You are better off doing what your dad has told you to do
Your had is wrong in hitting you but that is something he will have to live with in the future
The issue here is what to do now and that is tell your bf that if he loves you he must be willing to wait until your are 15
When you are 15 tell your mum to tell your dad you have a bf and see what he has to say about it
If he still refuses to let you see him, you will just have to see him behind your dads back
There is no need to cry, your bf still loves you try to keep in touch with him on fb and at school but make sure you your dad doesn't find out
okay first of all, he hit you. THAT was just wrong.
Secondly, I think that you should talk to your mom about it and hopefully she will give you some support and talk to your father about it and accept you are now growing up. talk to your dad yourself if you want. In a mature manner. Dont take a tantrum.
If this doesnt work, then you can date secretly. You dont have to tell your parents. If they just trust you and let you have a boyfriend, you wouldnt need to sneak around in the first place.
Parents can't just forbid their teenager to date someone. Its unfair.
Also, if you follow my first advice,you should get the guy to meet your parents.
Good luck!
Just keep it secret put a password on ur phone problem solved
If you think that your love is true (you should have any doubt about its reality) , move ahead. Otherwise, listen your father, take a chill pill and relax.
No one can keep you from uniting if you can keep the passion live for next six months.