Desperate Girl(please help)?
I've been married for mor than a year and half (engaged actually),
my husband Loves me soooo much but despite all my effort, I still dont love him
now that we are getting near to our wedding and to move in.. I am terribly Scared.. i cry all the time
My husband knows this, but he says its going to be ok, he wouldnt leave me...
he is so good that nobody is on my side, even my parents say im wrong..
but I cant live a life like this...
what do u think? do u think i can live with a good man but without love?
I feel im going toward total destruction.. I dont love him..how do I live with him? :-(
Help me please
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There are 2 obvious options
1st: Dont get Married
As you said many people disagree because he is such a good guy to you and everyone is against you leaving him. But here's my question: have you got feelings for someone else? IF yes then I'd advice you to tell him as proper as possible that you dont want to be married yet and that you love someone else. If no, you should still tell him that you're not ready to be married to him and that he might have to wait longer.
2nd Marry him
Its still some time before you get married. You might learn to love him. You might fall for him ones you get married. Ones you have kids? im not sure. But if you marry him, theres no turning back. you cant just expect him to let you go after you get married. Because as far as i can tell, he is very much in love with you and he is a good guy. Have you ever thought of who you'd end up with if not him?..
In the end its still your decision. I only tried to give you logical reasoning but I cant know how you feel emotionally. But i hope you find the right choice because this is a big step up.