I know i already asked this, trying to get as much help as possible.
I had this convo with a really close girlfriend last night and i think i handled the situation wrong... what can i say to later today to make her understand.... This is what went down:
Girl (3:42:57 AM): my other brother, ryan, tried to O.D yesterday.
Girl (3:43:07 AM): and then today, i think nathan's braking up with me.
Me (3:43:26 AM): oh. i'm really sorry.
Girl (3:43:27 AM): so i'm not doing good.
Me (3:43:48 AM): i didn't realize it was that big of deal.
Me (3:44:14 AM): what makes you think that.
Girl (3:45:17 AM): what makes me think what ?
me (3:46:07 AM): you said "and then today I think nathans braking up with me"
girl (3:46:51 AM): he said something.
me (3:47:10 AM): oh. alright. did he get the tattoo?
girl (3:47:22 AM): i think
girl (3:47:34 AM): we haven't really got around to talking about that today.
me (3:47:52 AM): i see.
girl (3:49:06 AM): ye
girl (3:50:48 AM): god. i feel like ******** dying.
me (3:51:18 AM): I'm sorry, wish i could help.
me (3:51:48 AM): but whatever. i'm sure you'll be fine.
girl (3:52:06 AM): yeah. sure
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girl (3:53:25 AM): and ryan's my neice and nephew's dad. so that makes it all the worse.
me (3:55:08 AM): I'm sorry.
girl (3:55:31 AM): no. you're very happy for yourself right now.
me (3:55:46 AM): i am not. why would you think that.
girl (3:56:01 AM): cause you love this.
me (3:56:06 AM): i do not!
girl (3:56:31 AM): you don't want me happier with nathan than you are with emily
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girl (3:56:41 AM): that's why you try to rub your **** in my face. you love this.
me (3:57:08 AM): what?
girl (3:57:22 AM): nvm. good bye.
me (3:58:09 AM): well, i seriously don't feel that. way. i am worried about you. but think whatever you want.
then she stopped talking to me.
I do really love her a lot, what can i say to her so she know that.
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I'll just randomly guess that you don't have a Dad to ask... It shows...
She's being extra-touchy. You didn't say anything wrong and instead tried to be supportive. I think she might have been filling in the conversation in her head and might be jealous of your relationship.
Give her a day to rest, then tell her "I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now, I really wish I could help you feel better, I do care a lot about you and you are a really good friend. Is there anything I can do to cheer you up?"
Good luck!
You: A caring friend
Girl: A psycho witch. No wonder Nathan bolted.
Nathan: A very smart guy who knows when to cut his losses with a psycho.
Just let her go. Why would you love someone who accuses you of being jealous when you've done nothing wrong? Let her come to you. Stop contacting her. She's not the kind of friend that you're giving her credit for. If anyone owes anyone an apology, it's HER to you.
im still new to txting not an expert but from what i learn DUDE never say "whatever"!
and u really sounded like an asshole when u said "me (3:51:48 AM): but whatever. i'm sure you'll be fine." i think she was trying to open up to u...shoulda take that chance and ask if u can call her to talk to her about it.
but yea jst txt her today see if u can call her to apologize (apologizing over the phone>txting). if she say sumin liek "i gtg cant talk" then jst apologize by txting and tell her how u feel while ur at it. shes already piss at u its not liek itll get any worse. its all or nothing right now. OPEN UP TO HER TELL HER HOW U REALLY FEEL
Her brother tried to od AND her boyfriend is breaking up with her? Ouch. Call her and tell her that you really care about her then ask if she needs anyone to talk to. Don't tell her you like her right away because she has a lot going on in her life right now but wait a few weeks until things clear up and then tell her how you feel about her.
First, how old are you? Second, ok well tell her that if he got a tattoo ( her name, i'm guessing) then he probably isn't going to break up with her. Just tell her that you care about her, and that you were a jerk, and that if she needs some time and space, you will give it to her, but when she needs a friend you will also be there. Also, ask her to forgive you.
"I'm sorry" she's your ex for a reason and i doubt its a happy one. Leave her alone you cant take on her problems. You shouldnt talk to your ex's anyway when you have a girlfriend now. Im guessing you broke up with her because she sounds jealous of your new relationship. Just leave her alone.
Maybe say I'm sorry & what happend last night I totally screwed up.
can we forget I messed up and try again?
Say it nicely, and say it like you really care. It could work. :33
You should call her and let her know that you love her and want to help her through it.
just tell her your true feelings about her. and always be 100% honest with her. just go with what you heart tells youu (: