At first out relationship was great. We didn't even argue. Then we started arguing over small thing and stupid things. She told me she needed a break but we got back together and things were still so different. We didn't argue but I felt so far away from her. I broke up with her. We started talking again and got back together. Still things seem different. I feel like after all this hurt and everything she has distanced herself from me. Or maybe she has just lost interest. Anyways she doesn't text/call me near as much and even when she does text me she doesn't seem as happy. We have been through a whole lot and its been almost a year. We love each other. We've both cried over each other. What is going on though? I think after all the times I've hurt her she is just trying to distance herself. What do you guys think?
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I went through the same thing with my boyfriend awhile back. I just felt like he wasnt happy and I felt like he was just so far away. We broke up for awhile, cause he kinda lost interest. We stopped talking for awhile and then we started talking again and fell in love all over again. So just take a break for awhil, don't talk or anything, this will give yourselves time to think whether you really love her or not. It will also give you guys time to miss each other and when me and my bf missed each other, that's when we got back together again.
Personally, being that I went through the exact same thing as you (so exact I thought you was me!) but, I think she has lost interest. The best way to tell is to not message her all day, and if she can go all day without messaging you first then yea, she lost interest. The best thing to do is not to force it anymore and just accept that she lost interest and things may not be the same if you just stick around. But before you do all the above, ASK First, And if you don't feel the answer she gave is acceptable, then do the above.
Best of luck my friend.
honestly, breaking up and making up relationships dont work out. you breaking up with her instead of working things out shows that its not going to work. of course shes not as happy as she used to be. maybe she wants to be with you, but shes wondering in her head, "is it worth getting hurt?" "do i listen to my heart or my head?"
i once had a boyfriend for over a year and we loved each other, cried, tried to make it work, but in the end it didn't, and now I have someone that I see myself marrying in the future. so you dont have to tie yourself down to one girl if its not working, just because youve been through a lot you know? either try making it work(doesnt seem like it is), or just move on!