hello,
i am very confused because, i have known a gal since 2yrs... she is really jealous even if i talk to a simple fren of mine...
she loves me that special fren.. but for me its hard to accept her as i havent got a serious job n am not stable yet...
but i do wana go out with her..
becoz we r muslims, she wanna me to get married to her for us to make love, like hugs, kiss on lips, etc...
we rarely meet... but whenever i do ... i have a great tendency to caress her back, hold her hand etc.. coz i care alot 4 her..
i fear smthg, like if i tell her that i cant no more just stay like that although i wana go out with her n see later.. but for sure i dont want to hurt her feelings..
i fear that i'll lose her 4ever... as i did have bad experiences in the past
help me..
wat can i tell her..
everytime i tell her that am not ready just coz i have no good job ... she feels ....strange.. i understand her alot...
thanx
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It sounds like what you are saying is that she is pressuring you to marry her and she doesn't want to simply date you in the meantime. You've already told her that you don't feel financially ready for marriage. Is that an excuse? Do you have prospects for improving your financial position?
If you have plans for your life and you love her, you should share your plans with her. If you want to marry her, you will know that. If you are undecided about wanting to marry her, or even wanting to marry at all, don't make a huge mistake and succumb to her pressure.
But whatever the situation, you have to share these thoughts with her. First. You two should be having conversations about this all the time!
Not having a good job is a great reason not to marry but it's also a good excuse. Try to figure out which it is.
Try telling her that you'll learn how to speak like a normal person, then you might actually make some sense to her