I know, I know, stupid question, but hear me out.
I realized about a year ago that I'm bisexual; I am a virgin so I can't be 100% on the sexual part, but I'm just as interested in girls as boys, so I figured it was accurate.
Now, however, when I see a cute guy, I think to myself, he's pretty good looking. But I can't quite picture myself dating him, much less anything more physical. Now, I see a beautiful girl, and I can definitely picture myself dating her. But I'm still iffy on the physical intimacy thing since I really don't think that much of it. I'm not against it but I don't get excited thinking about it or anything. Honestly, I have trouble picturing myself even kissing a guy or a girl.
I guess the basis of it is, I'm more inclined to want to cuddle up to, get to know and picture myself with a girl.
Sad detail that may matter; I've never dated anyone or kissed anyone. How pathetic is that?
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Well anyone can see that someone is good looking, but that doesn't make them straight or gay. They're just recognizing that someone is attractive haha. If you don't want to kiss anyone you could possibly be asexual I guess. But you sound more lesbian/bisexual preferring girls than anything, though only you can know for sure. Just see what happens, if you meet someone you like then go for it. Don't worry about labeling yourself if it stresses you out. :)
Not having dated or kissed is not pathetic. It just is. I'm willing to bet I'm much older than you, and my "relationships" with guys have been little more than hanging out. It never seems to work out beyond that, but that's another (very convoluted) story. I still know that I'm straight. Because I know what turns me on, I know what I feel around guys and what I feel (or don't feel) around girls. Only you can decide what is right for you. You will only know this by getting to know people beyond just "they're hot" or "they're not." All of it starts out with friendship. Until you get to know yourself and allow yourself to get to know others, you won't have a clear picture of what label you want to put on yourself orientation wise. When you've formed friendships, whether or not you feel something more romantic beyond that will remain to be seen. When you feel that, date. Guy or girl, it doesn't matter. Then what you want will come naturally. When you have enough experiences under your belt, your orientation will present itself, too.
I would suggest you just wait. You shouldn't have to label yourself at such a young age. You should just wait and see and maybe experiment with guys and girls to see which one you like best and which one your more connected to emotionally. You shouldn't have to rush it all, just lay back and if you decide you only like girls... So be it. Just don't try to figure it all out for yourself now, cause it will with time.
Take the Kinsey Scale?
Give it time. You have your hole life to figure it out. Good luck.