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i agree with you ... marriages seem to be very disposable these days and divorces are sought after a little tiff ... it's ridiculous how society has changed ... no one stays together anymore and people "try-on" marriages as if they were hats!!

i got married 2 years ago ... and divorce will never be an option unless he starts abusing me and/or cheating on me .. but even then i think couseling will have to be first ... because there needs to be a reason he changed.

I agree with you. I was married 3 times. Couldn't take the beatings any longer from all 3. I picked the wrong kind of partners.

We as a society should make it harder to get married. BUT then, I think there would be a hell of alot more pregnancies.

BUT you have to stop and think about what use to make more famlies stay together. It was because of old fashion values. The man was the king of his castle. It was ok for the man to cheat, have a mistress, and the wife was to sit back and take it.

The ladies of today, DON'T and there's no reason they should.

Most marriages I've ever known of have all ended on abuse or cheating. NO little petty reasons.

We do need to make it a better world for our kids.

You are very right. Marriage is too easily disolved these days. I honestly think if divorce was a difficult process, then people would think twice before they jump into marriage. I was married when I was 19 years old to who I thought was my high school sweetheart. He decided he didn't want the responsibility of a wife and a child anymore, so he turned to drugs, and eventually other women. I left him with our son before our second anniversary because he wouldn't seek help. I am now 28 years old, and married to a wonderful man who loves my son as his own. Sadly, there are a hundred reasons people can come up with to get a divorce. It does not mean they are valid or good reasons either. However, a lawyer can get someone divorced for eating habits now a days! It makes me very sad.

I am 26 and I agree with you. I am currently married and would have done anything to save my marriage, and for awhile for my children I put up with alot. Sadly now I am now awaiting my divorce but that is only because he is an abuser. The emotional, and physical abuse became to much.

As for anyone else I have heard of many stupid reasons for a divorce and even worse is fighting for the children it is all crazy.

No your right. Although I believe that it's better for you to live with someone before you marry them. So you know each others living habits. Then you know what kind of person you are marrying. And you know whether or not they are abusive. Sometimes people don't show you their real self until you live with them. But after you live with someone for a year or so you can usually tell if they are abusive. I think this is much better then a divorce and a lot cheaper too.

I AGREE! im 31 on my first marriage and have always thought it was going to be my only. but when we and my wife came into some rough times she (who has been divorced before) she was quick to move out calling it a seperation. there was no cheating, no abuse and really no fights, just some lack of communication and shes never wrong. i push and push to try to get her to talk with me on our problems and work thru them but i get no response and the more i push the more she pushes away.

in a short i feel she thinks getting a divorce is easier than working on us. shes the stubborn type and control freak (she'll tell ya that too)

Marraige is hard work. I have been with my husband for 16 years and we have had our ups and downs,but we worked it out. I divorced my first husband for adultry. I gave him a second chance and it did not work. I had hoped to marry only once but it did not work out that way. Now I have what I wanted all along. He is my best friend and lover. Divorce is never easy but sometimes there is no other answer. My husband is 46 and I am 55.

I'm 24yrs old, my parents have been divorced since I was 6mths old,they divorce because of abuse, my mom couldn't take it anymore... I don't blame her! but now I'm married with two kids, I refuse to get a divorce,unless it's really necessary, I rather compromise, talk and listen about all the problems and work on them as much as WE can...

i was married to my x wife for twenty one years the first ten where wonderful, the last eleven where a walk through a living hell. My value and morals , where " i made my bed, i lay in it" i fought for ten years to keep a marriage, that had lost its love, for the sake of my two children. it reached the point that my wife would tell my children behind my back that they did not have to listen to me, because i in her eyes was worthless. my family that i tried to raise in a chirist like envoirment, had to learn the hard way that they would be held accountable for their actions. at the end of the marriage, when my x served me, it was because she was having an affiar with one of our renters. as a christian i finally had the ground for the church to accept the divorce. the damage done to my kids because of a loveless enviorment was undone with a lot of hard work, and tough love by me. both now young adult have matured faster then most boys their age. as i near my 51st birthday, i reflect back and wish i had of divorced a lot sooner.life is to short, and its not human nature to live without love, when we do we are in fact killing our own souls, and doing harm to what god has created. as society becomes more liberal the horror stories of relationships of past generations who thought it was taboo is comming out. and its not a prettty picture of our human relationships. part of the problem in our society today is not the divorce rate, its how quickly we hop into bed with another, their is no self worth or pride in who or what we are as people. its anything goes, so people rush into marraige, because they have to, or to escape the living condiitions they are in, not for genunie love. they hardly know each other, and have not allowed time to expose the warts of a person. it has to be right now , this instant. thats why our divorce rate is so high, and contiues to spiral out of control. we need to slow down in the rush to become man and wife, and give time the chance to show the others persons true personality, their mind their soul and their heart, before rushing to the alter. divorce has been made easy, when love and life is not. to change the divorce rate, we have to change how society views it, and marraige totally, and i dont think we can do it. after all this is the world where anything goes, and their is no real permament cosequence for your actions

I have been married for 3 years and its a wonderful marriage and other than the 3 reasons i wouldnt get a divorce. I dont think counsuling would help me just because i dont think i could get over the fact that he was with someone else emotionally and sexually. That is a hard thing to get over period. If he wanted that someone else go for it i just want him to be happy and if not with me then whomever he chooses.