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where are you?

If you are in another country and your gf has lived there for many years, you should do as your country does, and not what Koreans would do.

How old are you?

If you are an adult then ask her, it is her decision not her father's.

Here's an answer from a girl that comes from a Korean family. Well halfly. But non the less Korean.

In Korean culture, it is exactly like traditional English culture when asking for a girl's hand in marriage.

Heed this advice, and ask the parents first! I know it'll probably be nerve wrecking and what not but trust me, they will respect you more for doing so.

Preferably it will ease the tension if you bring a small gift or something. Maybe something like their favorite dessert.

Good luck!

I would ask her.... and along with your proposal have some discussion about what her family would expect of you.

For starters... SHE should go to YOUR parents and make some formal bow and all that along with you since by her culture she would be leaving her family and joining yours.

By her culture, you are not joining her family... she is joining yours!

Now, that said, everyone's different and if she is second generation or something, that could change expectations too.

You must remember that overall Koreans are prepared to have the wives follow the husband's family's way of doing things.

There is no argument about whose house the family will be spending the holidays at... it is always the husband's family... no questions on that.

For you, she will be as free to follow your traditions as you both decide to do... for you... she will appreciate your efforts to honor her family, but culturally, you don't have quite as much responsibility in that area as I do... (I'm the foreign woman with a Korean husband, and culturally, I am supposed to have a lot of obligations to my husband's family! )

Hey well it depends. If your girl's the traditional one then you should really go traditional. And you're right you know ask for the hand of your girlfriend in marriage.

For me, it is really a good thing as well on the side of the parents or the family. Because by doing so, you could really prove to them that you are serious and sincere on your marriage proposal. By going traditional would also allow you to show respect to your girlfriend's parents or family.

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it's the same in korean culture--you will need to discuss with your gf's parents about marriage anyway and it is definitely polite to ask before hand and have the parents' permission

well if her parents approve of your relationship and they like you i think it should be fine... at least meet them once if you already haven't.

but to be safe, you might want to ask for permission before. just to be safe.

you ask both her and her parents.

basically,its like..manners to go and ask parents...

especially if they're really traditional

Naw u dont have to it really depends on the family, but im sure ull we ok. I hontely dont like koreans, sorry.