HELP! Boy problems!! Kinda long?

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HELP! Boy problems!! Kinda long?

Okay, So there is this boy and im not givin out his name but we'll call him B, and recently he just told me he kinda likes me. And then theres this other guy J (Not his real name) but i like BOTH of them. And i know J likes me, and B is my Ex and we went out for about 2 years. And then J, hes in my Art class, and we always talk ALWAYS and in line i let him cut me (lol) and then B he's in my homeroom and thats it.

This thursday we have a movie night and me and my "group" are going and tomarrow (tuesday) im gonna ask if hes going (B) and J idk because things would be awkward around him for some reason. And if he says yes are you going, does that means he likes me? We are in 7th grade. And J sits behind me at lunch and B sits across from me (other tables) and then i always look over and when he walks behind me i look back so its kinda obvious i like him. When im with J i feel like a whole other person, I love him. And when im with B, i also feel like a whold other person. And im not going to ask any of them out.

B i've known since 3rd grade, and J i've known since 4th. I really feel like B is ment for me. Because most people say the first person you date is ment for you. And thats B. So im gonna think about this. On thanksgiving i did a wish bone and i wished to be with him. Is it happening?!?!?!??!?? :D Also B likes to make me jelous. He dated a girl just to make me mad. G@y right?! And J, I dont think hes had many gfs. But they both play football.

So here are my main questions:

1.) Does J or B like me?

2.) Should i ask B to the movie?

3.) Witch one is ment to be?

4.) Is it true the first person is ment?

5.) Should i just move on?

Thanks guys it means alot <3

Family & Relationships / Singles & Dating

Jenny

Verified answer

1.) ok, I cant really pull much from that paragraph more detail on your relationship with B as a couple.. what happened to the past relationship ect.. Now, one mistake a lot of people make is that a lot of times guys aren't trying to make them jealous.. girls just sometimes think that because they have a crush on them ect.. Please make sure B is actually trying to get you jealous before you assume that (im just saying, for all i know he told you *shrugs*) Guys flirt a lot.. so if either guy is teasing you a little, always hanging around you, ect.. then those are a few slight hints they may like you. Ask them to be sure... that the only way you'll truly know.

2.) Awkwardness.. its a movie... your supposed to be watching it anyways instead of talking and disturbing other people.. and it wont be awkward if you make it fun and exciting for both of them.. that does not mean go out and try to be in their center fo attention.. that will be annoying but instead play around with them a bit, talk about their interest ect.. I think you should invite B because if not and he hears about it.. and he does indeed like you.. then that's going to get him jealous and it will make it seem like you aren't into him. so yeah go ahead, invite him.. cant hurt.

3.) The one you absolutely cannot live without is the one that's meant to be. But seriously, calm down.. your only in 7th grade and it does NOT get any easier once your in high school... trust me.. im only a freshman and I can see now I have a rocky road ahead. Don't focus on getting boyfriends all the time, focus on school. Boys are NOT necessary right now as much as you may think they are. Don't worry about who's "meant to be" You seriously don't need to worry about that now because VERY rarely do boyfriends marry their girlfriends after high school.. this is just to experience new people and find out who is "your type".

4.) I honestly do not believe the first person you date is meant to be. Most of the time people don't marry their first loves but there are most certainly a few exceptions. Don't get your hopes up and don't take things so seriously right now. My boyfriend just broke up with me in September. He lost interest and started liking someone else... we actually planned a wedding, named our kids everything. I loved him with all my heart and he left me. I NEVER thought that would happen. People said it would but i didn't listen.. now my hearts all torn and broken, point is, don't plan too far ahead.. take it one step at a time and it'll all fall into place. Trust me darling.

5.) Moving on... I say you DEFINITELY should be friends with both but maybe wait a little while until you are really ready for committing to a relationship. But talk to them and ask them about it and be mature about it and you'll be ok :)

I hope I helped. I'm only a freshman and have many love issues to come so i may think differently in the future but I have had my fair share of relationships.