I need to change myself. But I can't it toooo hard. I'm all self-concious, awkward, quite, ''the one who never talks'', and always blushes.
I know i'm getting worse. I used to talk to my classmate confidently and is able to do my speech infront of the class. But since I started HS, I mostly mumble and blush, get all embarrassed and can't even look at ppl in the eye when speaking. When I order something at MCDonalds I look at the table and say what i want sooo quietly, they ask me to repeat and then i get all embarrassed. I can't even look at the in the eye.
Please tell me how to look at someone in the eye and speak confidently without turing beetroot red!
how do u even think of something to say? I'm with my bestfriends and when I'm only sitting with one of them. Its sooo quite. I dont think they want to sit with me anymore, I just cant thnk of anything to say so its just all awkward silence.
When we do speeches fro english I cant do them anymore. I could do them 2 years ago but now i just can't. I feel like I'm going to pass out. My mum worries about me and how i"m not going to find a job when I'm older. Please HELP. I'm sooooo desperate :(
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Well i use to be the same way, actually i still am and to this day. but its simple. You dont think about what people think about you. If your mind is always racing about what others think about you, there is no room left for you to decide on the person you see in yourself. It's sounds lame, but its true. You are too fixated on everything around you and you don't even look at what its doing to you. It wasn't until 3 years ago or 4 that i got tired of not being heard, and kept telling myself, " I do have something worth while to hear." You have to keep telling you self and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone because just being there may be your only way out. If you can't think of anything to say, change the subject, just dont put too much pressure on yourself, it's ok, just think for yourself and no one else.
Trust me, sometimes i hate how i am because it's so hard for me to open up to people i dont know, i have trust issues, but im working on it and I believe that as long as you put work into the person you want to be, there will be no failure. There will be a day to keep trying and a day to make mistakes, just as long as you learn from them. Time doesn't wait on you, so make the most out of it, have confidence in yourself, read self help books, take speech classes or practice at home. read aloud when no one is around. Don't do so much thinking, you could be doing more harm than good. I wish the best of luck to you.
You should do something even if it makes you feel uncomfortable as that's what life is all about! :) phone loads of shops or hospitals or library's and ask for work experience, that way you will get loads of experience and will boost your job opportunity loads because they always ask for past experience. If you look around people who you seem to think are popular are probably going out of their way and doing stuff which helps as it is obviously working for them. Also tell people you have anxiety or something it can help to let it out so people know you might be a bit quiet and will respect that and be mature about it in the end. Good luck :)
It's anxiety. Only way to beat it is to hit it head on. Don't avoid what makes you uncomfortable, keep at it so that you become comfortable. Let yourself FEEL uncomfortable, so that it won't be so hard to handle being uncomfortable in the future. I feel awkward and embarrassed every day. It's fine though, doesn't stop me..
I suggest getting like therapy or something. I know it sounds strange but it could really help you if you want confidence
Can you talk to your family? If you can, when your talking to someone just pretend its your mom. Remember fear is just an emotion. You can talk to people if you want to. Just try to overcome this, and let your thoughts become words.